What is measured is mmm...take it to hell.

lifestyle Feb 16, 2019

I thought my weight was just gradually going up because...age...and not exercising...and...wine...and...a $10/day Jamon Serrano habit. 

 

All valid contenders. 

 

However recently I've got a new fit watch. I resisted all kinds of fit bits for a long time but this one earns me shopping vouchers and flight discounts, so...IN. 

 

Turns out, unless it's broken, that since I work mostly from home I only average about 3000 steps per day. Even when I do my resistance training (that's new the past couple of weeks).

 

Today I've been at home filming so at 2pm on this Saturday I'm up to a mere 599 steps.

 

That's not burning much energy, is it?!

 

The very first step to creating change is self-awareness. What can be measured can be managed, and now that I know this information, I can't un-know it. 

 

I'm going for a walk. 

 

PS. Since I have this watch, any steps taken without it on seem like a total waste, and my husband...

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The cost of choosing freedom is uncertainty

business lifestyle Feb 14, 2019

When we decide to pivot and carve out our own path there’s a period of adjustment as we say to people whose opinions matter to us: I’m not going to be the person you thought I was. I’m not going to take the path you hoped I would take.

 

In choosing freedom, we are choosing anxiety, because we can't see the pathway, we can't predict the outcome.

 

Feeling some anxiety is normal, but not comfortable.

 

There are periods where we bravely take action and cast our work out into the world. Then we have the anxious wait about how people will react to it, whether they will react to it at all, and how we'll react to their reaction.

 

We create things worth sharing, and then doubt their value, and experience the resistance of putting it out there. 

 

We wake in the wee hours worrying about how much money is going out, and whether enough will come back in. 

 

When it all gets too uncomfortable we dip back into safety. To remove...

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How to do business YOUR way

business lifestyle Feb 13, 2019

When we're looking for answers on how to do business, marketing, audience building, parenting or lifing in general, we think we're looking for the best way, the fastest way, or the most effective way.  

 

Logically we know there is no one best way.

 

What we're trying to figure out is OUR way.

 

We won't listen to the person who tells us the best way to build an audience is blogging if we've no interest in writing.

 

We won't listen to the person who tells us the best way to make money is to sell laxative tea for weight loss if it's not in line with our values.  

 

We're looking for the best way to use our own strengths, skills, interests and values even if we're not yet able to name what they are. 

 

The reality is that we're going to do business in a way that no-one else does.

 

To do that we're going to try a lot of different things, we're going to collage together a lot of different advice and training, we're...

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What online influencers don't tell you about creating change

business lifestyle Feb 12, 2019

When we're trying to create a significant change in our lives, our level of motivation to make the change happen is likely to be impacted upon by our hope story - our level of hope that this desired change is actually possible.

 

So what impacts on our hope story?

 

Someone who has been trying to give up smoking/drinking/excessive shopping/overeating may have tried unsuccessfully to give up these habits loads of times before - without success. Every time they don't succeed, their level of hope is eroded a little more.

 

People who are trying to build their business or their side hustle and have had several failed launches, or are stuck in that cycle where they seem to be taking two steps forward and three steps back, are likely to have their hope story eroded over time. 

 

Someone who has been trying to have a baby without success for 5 years and then had 3 IVF attempts that haven't worked - well, you can imagine how difficult it is to have hope that...

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The crap jobs we choose to do again, and again.

lifestyle Feb 11, 2019

Not everything that we choose to do is because we want to do it, need to do it or are expected to do it. 

 

Hosting a party for a loved one is rarely very enjoyable at the time. It takes vulnerability, planning, effort, commitment and hard work. It may have a negative effect on your financial state, or your ability to engage in other projects. 

 

Caring for a dying relative is rarely enjoyable at the time. The work can be heavy, uncomfortable, demoralising. It takes sacrifice and may have an impact on every other relationship and possibility in your life. 

 

Making the best man speech at a wedding when you're petrified of public speaking is mortifying on the day. The anxiety of being seen can be crippling and the consequences of getting it wrong feel significant. The commitment, investment and endurance of months of wedding planning - it's huge and consuming. 

 

Yet millions of us take on these roles every day.

 

Why?

 

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